I thought: “If this is being a Christian, then no thanks.”

For years, I refused to accept Jesus Christ because of the preaching I was exposed to. And because of this, I mistakenly thought: “Being a Christian really sucks!” I didn’t want to join that club.That church was to my spiritual growth as weed killer is to a rose bush. I know what you’re thinking. “Why continue if you felt it was so bad?”

1. I wanted to find Christ.

    • I mistakenly looked outward for this. Don’t do that! You’d think a church would be a safe place to find Christ. Not necessarily so!
    • Jesus isn’t holding his breath at church waiting for you. And….He’s not lost.

2. I attended “that place” because of personal ties.

  • I was a teenager. It was completely boy driven. Again…..Don’t do that!


Now……I didn’t need to be an adult, or a Bible reading- professed Christian to know things were a bit off. Here are some examples of personal beliefs/convictions that were imposed as absolute truth in the church I attended. OR……As I like to call it: How To Get a Teenager to Rebel Against God

  • People engaging in sinful behavior deserve to get sick and/or die.

This made me think: I thought you went strictly by the Bible? Aren’t all sins equal? If I gossip, then I should die? Goodbye all school-aged children and people living in the suburbs.  Oh yeah….Isn’t that a bit judgmental and non-Christian. Just saying.


What ? I took a $1.00 from mom’s purse!

  • Rapists and murderers have a place in heaven if they get saved on their death bed.

I’m thinking: Why bother with this church thing then? Okay…..I can wrap my brain around the fact that you need to accept Jesus Christ as your personal Savior to get into heaven, but……it can’t be that easy. There is no way you can led a horrible, sinful life, and then pull a Hail Mary on your death bed. I’m fairly certain that’s not what living in the spirit of Christ means. If that person is sincere, God will deal with them. That’s why there’s judgment and not just a stamp on your hand  or a glow in the dark wrist band saying you’re admitted.

  • True Christian women shouldn’t wear pants, have short hair, or look too nice.

PLEASE!!!! Unless someone proves there was a Target or Macy’s on hand back in biblical times…..Well….I hate to break it to you, people were a tad limited with their wardrobe selections.  If God was truly concerned about fashion statements, he would have never allowed parachute pants or prairie shirts to be created. Let’s face it. We are really talking about common sense and decency here. Did you bathe? Is your left breast hanging out of your blouse? Are you wearing pull-away pants out in public? If so…..why? There is nothing wrong with looking nice or expressing your sense of style through your appearance. It’s about not putting vanity first. It’s about not trying to draw special attention to yourself through those means. And don’t get me started on women tempting men with their scandalous garments. I’ve seen men drool over women in sweatpants and hoodies.

Mr Bean bored in church[1]

Okay…..Blah, blah, blah…Stay awake!.


  • Dancing is a sin.

Okay…….This isn’t Footloose people. Twerking is not dancing.

  • Get saved or burn in HELL!

Fear-Driven Christianity: What a winner! You can’t become “saved” and then live how you like because you’ve got your free pass. If this is how it worked, then no one would need or desire  church, fellowship, the Bible or anything resembling Christianity. We would just go to the nearest drive-thru window and order our salvation from the religious menu at the nearest Jesus Juice, Papa John the Baptiste or Burger King of Israel. What a load! After getting your driver’s license, you can’t drive however you like. There are laws. When you get married, you’re supposed to be MARRIED, meaning no longer single. When you get saved, you’re supposed to try to live in the spirit and walk with Christ. Walk the walk, not just talk the talk.


Dude. Did you want your salvation now or after Spring Break?

In the end, I realized I didn’t have to be “scared-straight” to accept Jesus Christ or remain terrified to live in the Christian faith. Choices should not be fear-driven. If it’s based on fear, is it really a choice? Christianity is about faith, trust and love. If my only thought was: “Am I in the Heaven Club or not?”, then I wouldn’t be living my life in Christ or be glorifying God. I’d be too paralyzed in fear. No. I’m never going to be perfect. BUT…..If I am truly trying to live in the spirit, then I shouldn’t be scared about my salvation or anything else. Well…..perhaps I’d be scared about Members Only jackets coming back. Are there any members left? Anyone? Anyone?



14 thoughts on “I thought: “If this is being a Christian, then no thanks.”

  1. Religion is best approached after examination.
    Having asked all these questions and then come to Christianity, I imagine your faith is stronger and more resilient than the average persons.


  2. I agree with you! I have made mistakes in my life and would hate to think I was going to hell for eternity from having made some bad decisions. All I can do is try to be the best person in this life that I can be. Considering my past, my present and whatever my future may hold, I can at least say I have tried to the best of my ability to survive and be the best person that I can. To be honest, even with all of my mistakes, I think I have done a very good job. Thank you for the words from your heart. A lot of us can relate. God Bless, and Amen 🙂


    1. Well….No one can live without making mistakes, despite the amount or magnitude. I’ve made an extreme amount of them. Personally, I feel that some are worse than others, but in God’s eyes…..a sin is a sin. I can only try my best to do what I’m saying here: “Live in the spirit.” When it’s all over, we’ll see what judgment brings.


  3. Whenever I hear/read things like your post I always stop and say a little “thank you” to my Mom and my childhood Pastor for never exposing me to that kind of “religion”. They gave me a good foundation to form my own opinion and build on and it stayed with me.


    1. That’s how it should be. We go to an amazing church now. I’m sure there are a lot of them out there. People just need to find them. The problem is….do people really have the desire to attend church if they had a horrible experience before? Not always. I didn’t go for years because of my experience. Thankfully my kids don’t have to go through it.


  4. I think that a lot of people get the organization of church and the teachings of Jesus mixed up. Can you imagine what the world would be like if we actually followed Jesus’ teachings about loving our neighbor? A great book to read about the historical Jesus and pondering his life from the viewpoint of many different religions/non-religions is “When Jesus Came to Harvard” by Harvey Cox, about making moral choices today. And a much more fun book is “The Year of Living Biblically” in which the author tries to incorporate all 700 something rules in the Bible into his life. He reminds me a bit of you, Lorre.


  5. I couldn’t agree more. Too many people running things they way they want and calling it “the Jesus way”. (…”if we actually followed Jesus’ teachings about loving our neighbor”…) And…..Wouldn’t that be something if we the world worked that way. I can’t even imagine.
    I like fun books! I’ll have to check those out. Thanks Michele.


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