Unless you are in the sex trade, then I don’t think it’s such a hot idea. I know there are those of you who might disagree and to a certain extent I get it. Some really good friendships can come out of the workplace and there is always the possibility of a romantic connection at work that actually lasts. BUT…More often than not, I’ve seen superiors with employees and it’s quite awkward when it ends. By the way, it was never a secret like you thought. Everyone at work knew you were doing the nasty. AND….Let us not forget the co-workers, who are both married to others, or at least one of them is spoken for. Again, not a secret. Everyone knows it and everyone is talking smack behind your back. BUT……I’m not talking about those rare happenings in life though and I’m not really talking about the romanctic aspect of it. I’m referring to those people to see the workplace as a replacement for highschool or college.
We all know them, the people who always say the best time in their life was school. When they talk about funny moments or accomplishments, it pretty much always goes back to school. It’s sad to think after graduation, nothing much else happened for them. There’s a mentality with them that carries into their new “grownup” role and job/career. They don’t understand not mixing business with pleasure. Their workplace has now become the new best thing that’s ever happened to them. They talk incessantly about their job at parties and on Facebook. Their besties, you guessed it….are all from work. They can’t seem to have a get together without clinging to the work umbilical cord. BUT….it takes a village….of idiots, to do this. Obviously, you need a crew of people who feel the same way you do.
It’s funny though, because the people who don’t share this mentality, well, they’ve moved on from having to be tied at the hip to those they see everyday. They kinda feel sorry for you. They see the swagger your gang has walking down the hall and going to lunch. They hear the laughing in the parking lot as you all meet and decide what to do next. They see the look in your eyes that says “I bet they want to be in our click.”, BUT….Do you see the pity in their eyes because you aren’t as cool as you think. They don’t want to join your gang. They want to go home and see their family. OR…..They want to go out with some real friends that they don’t see everyday and have to pretend to like (maybe just that one person from work). They don’t talk about you or the job when they are off the clock. They have a life. They have interests and dreams. They don’t need to be up your ass joining your latest drunkfest, because alcohol is not the common denominator for long-lasting friendships. Well, if you are an alcoholic and your buddy owns a bar, then it might be.
SO…..don’t be scared to meet new people. You aren’t going to get fired because you don’t hang with a certain group. Oh course, if you hang with the right group, you might not get fired for being a piece of shit at your job. That would be a bonus to work friends. BUT…..It’s not really friends if you’re using them.