Here I am, 42 years old with a 20 month old. When he’s 18, I’ll be……well…….old. My energy is not what it once. SO…..I was thinking about those teen moms.
- You have something interesting to post on Facebook.
- You get to go shopping for more clothes.
- Easy to lose weight and get girlie figure back.
- If parents willing
- room and board (you and child)
- continue education
- free child care
- can pass the buck
- Lot’s of energy to play with your child.
- You will be super stoked to get your license and won’t care you have to drive them around.
- You can help them with schoolwork since they won’t be far behind.
- Someone close in age to hang with (you will still embarrass them).
- Pretty much gone when you are 35 or so……
Hmmmmmmm? I’d say those girls were onto something, but let’s face it…….they only thing they were onto was a guy’s unwrapped noodle. I wonder if the money saved in condoms was less than the child support? Hmmmmmmmmm? Yep! Dumbass Mistake!
You are simply following the trend. The forty-ot mother is more the norm than ever and the child with the mom with some life experience is most certainly the fortunate child. Think of it, instead of growing up with your child you will have the great good sense not to compete for attention. You might actually being able to help with homework instead of doing it together.
I could continue, perhaps you get the idea though. Fifty is the new ‘middle-age’. We are gaining decades in our march toward ‘old’, certainly forty isn’t even considered ‘up there’ yet.
Don’t worry, when he is 18 you will be 60, barely outside of the ‘middle age’ spectrum, perhaps by then barely entering into the ‘new’ middle-age.
Great points. In my particular case, he’ll be with us for the rest of our lives. At least I won’t have to worry about my kids abandoning me and not wanting to visit. At least…..not The Cute One.
What a blessing to have the beautiful life you created with you for a life time.
Tax deduction Pete….tax deduction.
Yep,I’m with you. Dumbass all the way around. Though some manage to give the kid a great foundation and upbringing.
Guess it depends on the teen, I guess…
Bravo to the ones who succeed, them and the child.
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Hmm, I’ve gone back and forth about whether it’s better to be older or younger with kids. My latest thought is it’s better to be older. You’re better prepared mentally and financially, for sure. Physically it’s a bit demanding, but after the first 10 years, it’s not as physically demanding.
I just kicked, I mean had my youngest leave in November (he’s 23). I’m 53, so kind of in-between younger and older parent age.
I think you’ll really enjoy the high school years a lot (his, not yours).
Teen pregnancy is pretty bad most of the time for the mom, dad, and kids, unless there’s a ton of support and a lot of love available from everyone.
I will say….I have no experience being a young mom. I had my first when I was 30, which was older at the time. BUT……Having a child 10 years after that…..I can tell a difference in my parenting and for the better I hope.
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And this is a tough one. I don’t know which would be better/harder. Either way having kids could probably never really be called easy. I’m 27 now, and thinking of having kids soon – and when I think about where I was mentally when I was 20 I really don’t think I would have been ready. Heck, I question if I’m ready now. It will be interesting to look back in 10 or 20 more years.
If I had gotten pregnant as a teen, I would have tried my very best, but I think my mom would have ended up raising two kids at that point, God bless her endless patience. Lol, however – she did not hesitate to explain to me, in great detail, exactly what would happen if I got pregnant. My mom is a ninja master of explaining the consequences of your actions in the kind of way that whispers in your ear when you’re about to do something you know you’re not supposed to. And even at my age, she is still my voice of reason when I’m about to do something stupid of epic proportions. Lol, I kind of hope it’s a skill I can learn for when I have kids.
On the other hand, I know a woman who got pregnant at 17, and at 43 has been unable to have another child. It was hard for her, but she kind of looks at it as a blessing.
I have also seen a couple situations where the teen’s promiscuity came from problems at home. Sometimes teens are just being teens and making bad decisions (I know I made some huge ones myself) – but sometimes, there may be something more going on that’s making them feel the need to act out, and sometimes in unhealthy ways.
In the end, I think a lot of it (whether it’s just a bad decision in general or problems at home, and how they handle parenting after the fact either way) probably depends on the teen, and their support system. My vote is definitely to wait though.
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Yes……I think being older has several advantages. Now, I’m not saying it can’t work out for young moms (parents), but it certainly would be more difficult.
Quite frankly, any unplanned pregnancy is usually a difficult ones….based on whatever reasons one has for it not being “planned”. In the end, it’s all about the kids.
Let’s hope that someone is looking out for them….the babies and the babies having babies.
I had 2 children in my early twenties, third child when I was 42. Huge difference for me in terms of patience and generally being more present. Depends on the person I suppose. There are some advantages to being young with small children. Teen parents? Not so much.
Bigger age gap than me. I hope you were still able to get free babysitting.
I hear you. I have soooooooooo much more patience and it helps that I have a more supportive hubby this time around.
Never did the teen pregnancy thing, but mine are spread out over nearly twenty years. Having the special ones last is a plus. Patience is golden. Plus, the built in babysitting helps.
Not to mention…My children and grandchildren are growing up together. I am expecting another one in a few more months…after getting a new one today
Red.
Congratulations. Try to claim them all on your taxes.
Taxes? Who pays those?
Well…..not the smart ones.
I am 52, my daughter is nine, when I retire, she’ll graduate college, it is what it is and I feel being older, wiser and more knowledgeable as to how to make a family happy… well so/so … it is what it is… family (~_~)
having my first at 30 and last at 40…I notice a big difference in parenting. It helps to be more grownup.